19. Marriage and Young Family

Marriage and Family

I returned to Karluk where I continued with my missionary work until I returned to New Jersey to marry Ruth. I came by plane and then went South to Orange, Virginia where Ruth taught religion in the Orange County school system. School was not yet dismissed for the summer so I stayed a few days with Ruth’s friends.

On June 5, 1948 we were married in the garden of Mr. and Mrs. Charles Dimmick on River Road in Holland Township, NJ. Rev. Monard G. Sanford, who attended Moody Bible Institute with me and was pastor of the Baptistown Baptist Church, married us. We went to Connecticut for a week and then proceeded to Illinois where Ruth’s brother Bill and Addie McClintick where married. We went on a extended honeymoon together. We each had a tent and camped most of the time. I drove the Plymouth I had Ruth buy while I was still in Alaska and she was teaching. We camped in camping areas in the United States and on into the Canadian Rockies. I had a 16mm Bolex movie camera and took many shots on the trip.

We went into the same places that Chester and I had gone previously. One difference was that we went through Glacier Park. We went swimming in Lake McDonald which straddles the boundary line. I was the first to dive into the water and it was cold! It felt ike it was only a few degrees above freezing. I said nothing, but when Ruth dove in she thought I should have given some warning!

We took a road in the mountains of British Columbia; We soon found out why there were so few cars traveling the same. We came to a river and a railroad bridge shared as a common means to cross the river for both trains and automobiles. The bridge was covered with about a foot of water. Bill took off his shoes, rolled up his pant legs, and started across the bridge. I followed with the car, and the women walked along behind, lest Bill and the car find the road was no more. When we got across we needed gasoline so we drove until we saw the first gas station. When we got the gas, the pump operator asked us where we came from. We told him we had crossed the railroad bridge.

He looked at us surprised and said, “You did?” You’re the first ones to cross the bridge since spring.” This was July. We returned to New Jersey in August.

I wrote to Gordon College in Boston with the application for entrance. I was accepted so in September we were in Massachusetts. We found an apartment behind Harvard University. We stayed the one semester. When I left Alaska I was told by Mr. Jones, superintendent of Alaska Packers Association in Larsen Bay that I was welcome to come back in the spring. We were both anxious to return to Alaska so we made plans to go north. A couple of days before getting the flight for Kodiak, Seattle WA had an earthquake with a 6.5 magnitude on the Richter scale. When we arrived in Kodiak the people were all interested to know everything about the quake.

I was asked to keep store in Larsen Bay during the summer. Ruth would serve tables in the dining room. At this time Ruth was expecting our first child so she left Larsen Bay some time before I did. This was the latter part of August and I left i September.

Stephen Gregory was born October 11, 1949. We were going to stay in the area for some time so I was hired by William. Schaaf when he needed a mason to work on Holland School. He was especially in need of a plasterer. Only union help was hired so I joined the mason’s union. After finishing the plastering I was put to laying bricks. From this school we went to Flemington Elementary School when Mr. Schaaf had a contract to build an addition to the present structure. I worked for Mr. Schaaf on the Kingwood chool and I worked for him building bridges in Kingwood, Sand Brook, Ringoes, and Milford.

I then worked with my father building head walls on a number of roads. I worked building fireplaces and chimneys. I have built at least eighty-eight fireplaces and chimneys in my working days. I also installed about thirty dampers in old fireplaces. Early in time fireplaces were built without dampers. There was no way to control draft or fire without a damper. With the discovery of its worth, dampers were fitted into existing fireplaces. About this time I also began to oil paint pictures, but as the family grew the demands to produce more grew and I did not find the time necessary to do the things I did before.

After Gregory was born we moved to an apartment in Everittstown. On May 29, 1951 John Mark was born. We again began thinking about returning to Alaska. This time we contacted Miss Bucklin from the Women’s Home Missionary Society in New York City about the Children’s Home in Kodiak. We made application and soon had our physicals. In the Spring of 1952 we left for Kodiak.

One response to “19. Marriage and Young Family”

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    Jean Fennell

    June 5, 1948:
    It was a day much like today: overcast in the morning and then the sun pushed through in the afternoon:
    In 1948, weather forecasts were not as specific as they are 76 years later with radar, etc).
    I wasn’t there to experience the memorable day, so I am telling this story as it was told to me.
    The bride wanted an outdoor garden at the home of friends in Holland Township “Grandpa & Grandma Dimmick” off of River Road -a beautiful terraced garden. She dreamed and imagined how beautiful “her day” would be, yet realistically understood they should have an alternate plan in case of rain; her backup was a church in Finesville, but she REALLY wanted the outdoor setting.
    With the forecast and overcast skies, she made the decision to stick to the original plan: outdoors! While there were most likely heads shaking and wondering comments made in murmurings, the preparations and planning were statred long ago.
    She sewed her own satin wedding dress and beaded it as well as across the bodice and at the wrists on the sleeves. She borrowed a wedding veil made of Hungarian lace from cousin Bert Buchein’s wife Millie. She looked smashing! To top it off, she wanted to carry long stemmed white calla lilies- which had to be special ordered in those times.
    (When she had her studio portrait taken before her wedding day, they substituted lilies for her official portrait, since calls lilies were very expensive and it would be wasteful to order them just for a photo shoot!)
    Parents of Bride: William & Hazel Mull of Hughesville, NJ (Holland Twp)
    Parents of Groom: Harry & Eva Zdepski of Stockton, NJ(Kingwood Twp.)
    Bride: Ruth Emma Mull
    Groom: Stephen Zdepski
    Bridesmaids:
    Anna Zdepski
    Lou Lewis
    Marion Sandford
    Flower Girls:
    Ruthann Mull ( cousin Ruth Foy)
    Jane Sandford
    Groomsman:
    Michael Zdepski
    Officiant:
    Reverend Monard Sandford
    (Reception followed afterwards-but I’m not sure if that was at the church or in the garden.)
    Today I bought maroon calla lilies, which match the little favor plates from their reception.
    In the picture you may also notice the wedding cake bride & groom ceramic topper in front of the maroon plate.
    Ruth kept tge happy couple in her corner cupboard in the dining room. As a littie girl I was intrigued by them! The btide wore a real tulle veil, but over the years that became brittle and was removed.
    As a second grader I wanted to take the topper to “show & tell.”
    Mom said I wasn’t allowed to since it was so fragile. I snuck it out anyway and proudly displayed them on my desk all day long in Mrs. Adams’ class at Holland Twp. School. I don’t remember my show & tell presentation, but my clearest memory was in slow motion- the “fall” to the floor where the groom’s head broke off!! I was certain I fixed it well enough by gluing his head back on and replacing the happy couple back into their place the corner cupboard once again. All better! Phew!
    It wasn’t all that long afterwards that mom approached me with the ceramic couple in hand and the groom’s line of glue showing (grrrr!!!) around the circumference of his neck.
    I don’t remember the punishment as much as the question,
    “How did THIS happen? Did you take it to school when I told you not to?”

    I wonder if from time to time our “everyday housewife” with seven screaming me-me’s just may have gone to the corner cabinet to remove the ceramic bride and groom and ponder her dreams from that June wedding day back in 1947. Her life was hardly glamorous, but she and her handsome groom worked hard to feed us & care for us & to make a comfortable home for all of us to grow up in…
    Happy Anniversary in Heaven, Ruth & Stephen Zdepski!
    Ya done good,
    With much love and admiration
    Your (naughty) daughter,
    Jeannie Marie

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